This week we actually made it back to playgroup! Our favourite church based group has been one we have missed for a few weeks, but we got back there and hopefully will get back into the habit of spending our mornings with friends!
Our playgroup schedule has diminished a lot the last few months because BB is of an age where he’s too boisterous for some but not big enough to defend himself in others. I enjoyed going to the library to sing, but as the friends I had made went back to work it became a really lonely place — and not just for me.
I once cringed my way through a session when a mum was trying to involve her son who kept snatching.. She was obviously working with him on stopping that behaviour, and doing a great job. Sadly, she was watched and scrutinised by a group of women who had new babies and then she felt uncomfortable enough to make her excuses and leave early… I was sat next to her and she said she was so embarrassed her son was so lively, but they had just moved to the area and she needed some company. So she had made the effort to come out and then made to feel judged — it was a really uncomfortable experience.
I went a few weeks later when BB was confidently crawling, and he kept wanting to play with toys that other babies had — quite common, he was still just over a year old. I then glanced round and realised that we had become the subject of this judgemental mindset. All sat with their babies happy on their laps, chatting to one another.. About BB. I didn’t go back.
Just remember, it’s all well and good sitting back and gossiping about someone else’s child and/or mothering. But your baby won’t be a baby for long, and you’ll be the one chasing your child wielding a tambourine around the room while everyone whispers and tuts.
Living Arrows is about celebrating childhood and its trials & tribulations. The project originally took it’s name from a poem by Kahlil Gibran, “You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth” and each Monday I’m going to share a moment from our week. Over the course of 52 weeks, I’ll have a series of snapshots built up which shows my little boy blossoming!