Motherhood can be quite hard, but it’s also a blessing and an amazing opportunity. There’s probably nothing more life-affirming that you could ever take part in, and something that can change your personality completely. Motherhood is perhaps one of the most sacred considerations on Earth, no matter if you’d term that within a religious boundary or not. Without motherhood, the human species would fall very quickly. But more importantly, without good, caring mothers, humans would be much less of what they are now. This is to put things in huge, grandiose terms, but sometimes it can be good to remind yourself of just how important you are for your child when times get tough.
Flourishing as a mother is hard to self-identify, but if you’re working hard and are present, you’re likely doing much better than you think you are. We would recommend that in the interest of self-maintenance and to squeeze even more positivity out of this process, you take part in the following:
If you can, why not focus on discussing your experience with mothers? While motherhood carries largely the same number of personal duties in looking after children, each experience varies wildly. Every mother has something new they could learn, but they equally have something valuable they could teach. When you partake in discussions about motherhood with those of all ages, perhaps in a community group or online, you learn about this miracle process, and the challenges perhaps you might not have experienced, or might experience one day.
You can also benefit from advice, and perhaps understand the true nature of self-love during this process. At the very least, having somewhere to express your deeper views about motherhood can be completely cathartic, and it’s not exactly hard to see how that would be beneficial.
Upgrading & Refining
As a mother, finances are often tight to some degree. It can be worthwhile to sell your old implements, placing them in Squab Storage, or perhaps using this to preserve old items from your pregnancy that you’d love to hold on to. In the process of upgrading the equipment you use as a mother (and there will be plenty of this,) you begin to realize how the orbiting and gathering set of tools that you use become personified and part of your personal journey. Who knows, perhaps they’d help another mother some day?
There are many hardships that come along with motherhood. Thankfully, the benefits outweigh them, but they don’t exactly help us completely ignore those problems we might encounter. All we can say is that forgiveness is a strong ally throughout this process. Forgive your partner if they missed their turn tending to the baby at night due to exhaustion. Forgive yourself when you feel you could have handled a situation more appropriately but different. And forgive your social group as it often changes to friends who stick around thanks to your new definition as a mother, as those who often do not understand parental life find it hard to be around those in its midst. All of this can help you emotionally regulate yourself effectively.
With these tips, you’re sure to flourish as a mother with wisdom.