Living Arrows | Eight

How on Earth did we create something so gorgeous?! Mike caught this beauty as we were waiting on his siblings who were on a ride at Gulliver’s World!

We went to Gulliver’s World as a family — me, Baby Button, Mike, Meg & Tris. We don’t often all get the chance to go out all together as Meg and Tris are at that teenage (one almost teenage) hump of life, and they just aren’t as enchanted by things that Baby Button can enjoy as much as tablets, computers and gaming.

Having a blended family can be really challenging when it comes to getting things right for everyone, but his big brother and sister love him to pieces so they make things much easier. Meg is a natural when it comes to BB, and BB loves to cuddle, play and play fight with her already. I remember years ago when I first met Mike I didn’t want children, at all. Then I met his, and while it was a huge learning curve I didn’t always get right I tried — but it wasn’t until we unexpectedly had BB enter our lives that I truly blossomed as a Mum and a Step Mum. Now I feel comfortable with the role I play in their lives, and it feels pretty great.

I don’t see his siblings as ‘step’ siblings, they’re just his brother and sister and while they don’t live with us they still play a really big role in shaping BB into who he’ll become. I know some people have become confused when they’re mentioned on the blog, so I just want to clear that up!

BB has been on and off with his sleeping, but since I felt his teeth cutting I’ve been able to give him Calpol to make nights easier, and my family surprised him with some brand new sleeping bags so I’ve had him in one of those as opposed to his duvet. Some nights we sleep well, some we struggle but at least I have a little bit of a reason now. I’ve also read that when a toddler is learning to walk, they struggle at night? He’s walking almost everywhere now, in short bursts as he gets used to his legs — often plopping onto his bum but getting straight back up again. He’s also discovered his ride-along train which is fun — after a few days of riding it backwards and falling off, he’s conquered it and can push himself around quite happily!

Living Arrows

Living Arrows is about celebrating childhood and its trials & tribulations. The project originally took it’s name from a poem by Kahlil Gibran, “You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth” and each Monday I’m going to share a moment from our week. Over the course of 52 weeks, I’ll have a series of snapshots built up which shows my little boy blossoming!

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  • I don’t often get to read other posts on blogs besides the linkies I run/join in with and so I didn’t actually realise you had other children. This was really insightful. I grew up in a home with two brothers who both had different Dads to me but they were always my brothers – no half etc. My ‘step’ dad has been there since I was two and for me there is no step there either, he’s my dad as he’s been there the longest. He then split with my mum, got a new partner and had three children. There is no blood shared there between them and I but they are still, as far as I’m concerned, my brothers and sister. Families can be so complicated nowadays but it doesn’t make them bad/worse – it’s just the way life is and I am glad I have the family I do – with the steps, halves and everything else that others see and I just don’t. I think your little Button is going to grow up just fine, loved by so many people x

    • Thank you so much Donna! I didn’t find stepping into the ‘step mum’ role easy at all, but it’s made a lot more sense since becoming a mother myself. BB is just lucky to have a little family to look out for him!

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