Parents have a responsibility to keep their children motivated at school. It’s the teacher’s job to teach them during school hours, yet it’s yours to get them prepared the rest of the time. Pushing them to be better, then, is inevitable.
For the most part, parents have no qualms about doing this because it’s for their good. Knowledge is power, and an excellent education will give them the tools to set up a fantastic life.
However, pushing them too hard is a problem and can force them to bite back. The trick is to know when it’s a bad thing. Here are four scenarios which should help.
When They Don’t Want To Do It
Almost every kid will say they don’t want to go to school to learn. Clearly, you can’t let them do what they want during the hours of nine to three. They have to attend classes and focus during the hour blocks. However, forcing them to take lessons they don’t want to is a recipe for disaster. You might think it’s a good idea, but they will never attempt to learn and it will be a waste. When there is an opportunity, let them choose the topics they love as their passion will encourage them to soak in info.
When They’re Tired
There is homework to do for the following morning, and they need to complete it. Of course, some mums and dads like to push their kids and get them to do extra. There is nothing wrong with this as long as they are awake and fresh. Tired children zone out and don’t take in any of the information. Again, it’s a massive waste of your time and energy as well as the kids. Plus, it’s essential for them to have a balance between working hard and enjoying their childhood.
When They’re Independent
Kids age like everyone else. Your six-year-old is now sixteen and is growing into an adult. As a parent, you still have a say but it should be more limited than before. Teenagers are worse than toddlers for throwing their toys out of the pram and defying you out of sheer stubbornness. Say one thing and they’ll do the opposite. Yes, a university is every parent’s dream but higher apprenticeships are a good alternative too. Not only will they get experience as well as education, but they’ll get a wage also. The important thing is they aren’t dossing around.
When It’s Too Expensive
The best educations are the private ones. State schools do a job yet they don’t have the same quality. Everyone wants their kids to have the best, so it’s tempting to scrimp and save for a quality school. However, it’s better that they have a safe family environment. Crippling debt, particularly if it’s because of their education, is going to have a terrible impact. Sometimes, you have to admit that a certain establishment will do for now. Hopefully, you’ll have enough money to reassess in the future.
Are there times when you push too hard? What are the effects?